It is incredibly tricky for many of us Iranian to accept No as an answer. It is even more difficult for us to say No, when we actually imply No.
We have to say Yes to matters that we do not like. We say Sure mainly because it is (occasionally) bad to say No in our Iranian society. For confident we have numerous conditions in our tradition that has just one solution only: “No”.
Nevertheless, we Iranian have a deep tradition of earning Taaroof, a notion that can be outlined culturally, socially, politically, and even developmentally. If we have a guest in our dwelling we have to supply them meals, consume, and leisure. One particular terrific element of our offer you is due to our hospitality. We Iranian like to share food items. It is in our tradition and our values that we have to invite persons to occur over for food items. On the other hand, we have a tendency to decide one an additional based mostly on the quantity or stage of our Taaroof.
Why do we make Taaroof? The core topic as Taaroof is a multidimensional component of our Iranian existence design and style and Iranian tradition. I guess we will hardly ever be able to examine this phenomenon in-depth. Taaroof of is a intricate, contextual, and discovered habits that only we Iranian know its aspects.
Essentially Taaroof indicates making an provide that is dependent on not having no for an answer. Persuasion is mainly concerned in our Taaroof output.
At times Taaroof make us to adhere to a double regular. From one side we do not want some thing, but on the other hand we have to faux to like factors or men and women. We are continually making features. We request folks close to us to do what we are inquiring them to do, irrespective of whether it is about consuming far more foodstuff or from keeping extra following occasion is more than.
We have to prevent this conduct. It is not balanced ,it has never been. No should mean No, in each and every problem. Do not make faux Taaroof. We do not have to make Taaroof at all. Only if we definitely like to do so and if we really suggest it. On the other hand we really should give individuals the flexibility to say No, as soon as they do not like our presents. Wow, we are complicated.